"for young women only" by Shaunti Feldham & Lisa A. Rice
I had read "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldham last year and found it totally changed my way of thinking in certain areas. Some things in the book were total eye openers, so when I saw she had written one for teen girls and young women I ordered it for my 17 year old daughter to read and also for myself, seeing I had a 15 year old son and thought I could use all the help I could get in figuring him out, too!
The authors have written a very insightful book that should be a help for teens in the very confusing and scarey world of boys, friendships with guys and dating and wondering what on earth guys are really thinking. This book deals with topics from respect, acceptance, "mean girls", trust, what guys think about the way girls dress, to s*x. The authors have taken surveys of several hundred guys from every walk of life, Christian and non-Christian to see what they are really thinking. From the surveys they also developed focus groups with the young men to discuss what they saw where common answers on the surveys and use quotes from young men throughout the book.
I thought this book was helpful simply because they are writing from surveys taken & quotes from young guys rather than just from their own personal opinions. I think this will give credibility to what they are trying to say with teen girls. Even though girls may have already heard some of this from parents, as my daughter has, actually reading from the surveys what the guys are saying,to me, gives it that extra backing.
Although, some have criticized this book in the area of young men's thought lives, as giving guys the excuse they might be looking for to be exempt from responsibility for their thought life, I did not take it that way. In fact the authors several times said that most guys shared they struggle to bring their thoughts under control especially if they are church attenders. The fact is, the book was written for girls, so that they would have some understanding as to what a guy is thinking, not as a teaching book for young men to convict them.
I read it ahead of my daughter so that we could discuss the different areas and if nothing else it gives open doors to conversations that otherwise they might not just start themselves. If you would like more reviews on this book to give you a better idea, click on the link at the beginning of the post.