Publisher's Summary:Don’t just improve your marriage. Transform it!
Marriage Coach Daniel Tocchini shows how to break barriers and remove ruts in marriage.
Us isn’t about improving marriages. It’s about transforming them. Drawing on personal experience and stories from couples he has coached, Tocchini offers practical guidance to move couples beyond communication tricks and gimmicks to help them truly understand "Us" for the first time—talking honestly, listening generously, tackling tricky issues, breaking out of ruts, and abandoning self-centered “consumer thinking.” The good news, according to Tocchini, is that personalities don’t need to change in order for marriage to work. What needs to change is how we view ourselves, our spouses, and our marriages.
Innovative, insightful and thoroughly biblical, Tocchini’s approach has helped thousands in his popular seminars. Whether a marriage is in deep trouble or just coasting along, it's time for Christian couples to read the User's Guide that God intended.
In this intensely practical, innovative guide, marriage coach Daniel Tocchini invites you to open your marriage to transformation by learning to:
· Expect less—and infinitely more—of your life partner and yourself
· Actually talk to each other instead of making assumptions (and accusations)
· Break free of those recurring, unresolved arguments
· Manage the impact of difficult (but necessary) conversations on your relationship
· Defuse conflict without sweeping it under a rug
· Open the broken places in your marriage (the ones you hesitate even to talk about) to God’s kind of reconciliation
Tocchini explains, “This is a transformational approach to breaking through the barriers and getting out of the ruts in our marriage by paying attention to our conversation—what we are thinking, our motivation for thinking it, and the impact it has on our spouse.”
Daniel L. Tocchini has worked with more than 5,000 couples through personal marriage coaching and the unique and life-changing marriage seminars offered through his organization, the Association for Christian Character Development. An ordained minister, chaplain, author, and highly successful speaker/coach, he lives with his family in California.
In the book "Us - A User's Guide", I found a very easy to read, totally eye opening time well spent. I don't think I have ever read a marriage book that actually got down to the nitty gritty of where we are at in our thoughts and our assumptions and how those affect how we react to circumstances and situations that arise in every marriage. Like the title says, it is a User's Guide, so it is not a band aid approach. The reader will be challenged in their thinking and where their motivations come to work to move from a "consumeristic" approach to marriage to one of a transformed mindset towards marriage and communication, always with the goal in mind to break through the barriers that we ourselves erect. This book isn't just for those who are struggling or in trouble in their marriages, but can teach all of us how our thinking and our approach affects our communicatations. Like the tagline reads for the book, the manual is not about improving your marriage but about transforming it.
Thanks to The B&B Media Group for providing this book for review.
"Us - A User's Guide" is avialable for purchase here.