Laundry is piling up downstairs and it's about time I get to it. It's just been so busy around here lately. Cries of "Where's my green shirt?", "Can you iron my pants?", and "Have you seen my blue hoodie?" abound. But you won't hear me telling hubby to get down there and throw a load in. At my house that is my job.
But you will hear me tell him to take out the garbage, mow the lawn, shovel the walk, paint the fence, clean the garage, trim the trees and blow out the underground sprinklers in the fall. You will never catch me outside climbing a ladder, or on the roof fixing it or changing the roof tiles. Anything "fix it" falls into his capable hands. Including anything electronic or techy.
But it seems laundry is mine, cooking is mine, ironing is mine, for the most part vacuuming and dusting is mine also. How did these definite divisions occur. As I sat thinking on it, it seems, that even though both of us work full time, the chores definitely seem to fall into a "old fashioned" kind of division with "guy" chores and "wifely" chores. I've always marveled at friends and aquaintances who in passing conversation might mention that the male counterpart of their household ironed his own shirts or was hurrying home to cook dinner or had to throw a load of laundry in before they left the house. How did that happen in that household? How did they get their hubbies doing those chores?
I had a fleeting emotion of being jealous that their hubbies would do this but then in quick reality and amazing revelation, I thought that if I started
After some thought, my comfort zone side won out. I am comfortable cooking. I love it. Did I want to give it up to push a heavy lawn mower in the heat, sweating up a storm. I don't mind doing laundry. In fact, I don't think it's as much of a chore as some of my dear friends do. I almost really like the mindlessness of it. It lets my thoughts wander. I am comfortable with it. Do I want to trade it to start climbing ladders to clean out gutters or paint the side of the house? I think not. I am comfortable with a vacuum in my hand as compared to a wrench or hammer in my hand. I have "my" chores down pat, so that I can do them lickety split. Do I really want to shake up the status quo or rock the boat? Nah, I'm thinking. So I think I will stay with my "Leave it to Beaver" divisions of household work load. But I didn't fight my dear hubby when he volunteered to clean the stainless pots and pans each night. I may be practical and all about comfort zones but I am not crazy!
Which begs the question: Is there a definite expection of division of household chores in your home? Or is it all mixed together and everybody participates in doing everything?